The Mental Weight of Making Decisions

Life is full of decisions, from daily choices of clothing and schedules to the more significant life-altering decisions. For many people, making decisions is difficult, and it is particularly so for those who have dealt with ADHD, mental health issues, and trauma. All of these things can make decisions big and small challenging to make.

Your mental capacity is finite and if you are trying to make decisions all the time you may be using up your capacity on things that could be simple. You want your brain to focus on the big decisions, the deadlines you need to meet, and unexpected situations that pop up in your day.

These few questions and ideas may help you identify the little decisions that are overwhelming and figure out ways to relieve the weight of making those decisions.

What can be streamlined?

Routines are one of the safest ways to minimize decision-making. Whether you do the same thing every morning or choose a day to run errands, consistency is key. Maybe you decide that Mondays are laundry days, so you make a habit of starting a load Monday morning.

Organization can help simplify certain decisions as well, for example:

• The keys always go on the key hanger on the wall in the entryway.
• The cleaning supplies are stored in the closet next to the bathroom.

Having a place for things helps you find what you need, when you need it, and prevents you from trying to figure out what needs to happen next.

What can be systemized?

Find a system that is flexible and also relieves the need to make a decision every single day.

• Consider creating a uniform to minimize clothing choices.
• Pick one grocery store for shopping.
• Have the same breakfast each day.
• Outline a basic meal plan (e.g. Mon-soup, Tues-vegetarian, Wed-pasta, etc.).

What decisions can be made by others?

There might be decisions that you don’t need to make. If meal planning is stressful, ask your family what meals they would like for the next week. Figure out if certain work decisions can be delegated to another team member. Ask your spouse to make decisions for you.

What decisions need to be made for others?

There may be people who need you to make choices for them, but that does not necessarily mean that you get to assert your voice over theirs. Communication and input from all parties often need to be considered in your decision-making, even if the buck stops with you.

When can others help you make a decision?

Some decisions benefit from the wisdom and insight of others – typically, situations with dramatic life shifts. Seeking input from respected friends and family may guide you to the best option. Just remember to ask people who want you to be your best, not those who want you to do things their way.

Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. – Psalm 25:4-5, NIV

God is always available to give wisdom when need to make a choice. Prayer helps you reach that line whenever you need it. You will not get a precise answer, but when you are looking you may see Him guiding your way.

The counselors at Agoura Christian Counseling in California are here to help you strategize in all the choices of your life. Call today to schedule an appointment.